Let's Talk About...

...sex.

And I just lost a few of my readers. I'm guessing they're the more uptight individuals who might read this, but whatever. I don't particularly give a damn.

Anyway, back to what I want to talk about in this post: sex.

I've been thinking about relationships a lot recently, for various reasons. As some of you may know, I've been in a relationship for the past three-and-a-half years. It's been a good time and I have a lot of fun with him, trust him, enjoy his company, the whole nine yards. But, I still think about the relationship itself, where it's going, and the nature of relationships themselves.

Now, today, I came across something that demanded my attention, especially when you factor in the fact that I've been thinking about similar ideas recently. What was this that demanded my attention, you ask?

Well, while browsing Facebook, the Holy Grail of information regarding your friends, family and various other individuals who you desire to stalk via the internet, I saw that a few of my friends had become fans of this page: There's More To A Relationship Than Just Sex.

Just to state right off the bat, I agree with the idea that there is more to a relationship than just sex. If there wasn't, there would be no point in making friendships, getting to know each other, yadda yadda yadda. We wouldn't make emotional connections to other people and, instead, just fuck all of the time and then go about our business when we were satisfied.

Welcome back to those of you who had to go for a bit due to thinking of this possible alternate to our own universe.

Anyway, while I agree with the basic tenant of this statement, I think that the key foundation of a relationship with another person is sex. To clarify, my use of the term "relationship" is referring to a social, "romantic"* connection with another individual. This "relationship" is one between two people who desire each other in a "more than friends" way. IE they want to fuck and have an emotional connection, too.

Now, I probably just appalled a few of you, but whatever. If you have issues with what I say, there are probably numerous buttons on your screen that will allow you to leave this page, most importantly that little X button in the top right-hand corner of your screen. For those of you who aren't appalled, or desire to stay anyway, I shall continue.

In my personal opinion, a relationship is between two people. I don't care if you're a man and a woman, two men, two women, of different ethnicity, religions, race, whatever. That doesn't matter to me. What matters is that there are two people involved in this relationship. Some of you might be whining to this effect "What about the polyamourous people?!". Whatever. For the purposes of this post, it's two people. You can have relationships with others, but we're focusing on two people. Don't like it, tough, go away, shut the fuck up.

Anyway! Sex is an important dynamic to this type of relationship. If you're not attracted to the person, why are you bothering to waste your time with them? Sure, you can have a good time with them, they're funny, you can even love them. But if the heat's not there, the cake isn't going to cook. And if the cake don't cook, you're not going to want to eat it.

(For those of you lost on my analogy, that means that if you don't like the person sexually, your relationship won't last.)

Some of you are probably shaking your heads furiously saying "that's not the way it goes!" and whining to your significant other. Most of you are probably females whose boyfriends haven't been laid or even suggestively touched for the entirety of your two month relationship because you believe this. All I can say is, to the girl, you're a fucking tease. And to the guy, I'm sorry you got stuck with such a frigid bitch.